Tea In The City & My Friend's Ex!

I met two guys today.

Guy #1 was in the city (NY that is). I was there for an interview and afterwards, I met up with this guy that I had recently started chatting with. We actually had plans to meet in my city for a date on Saturday but I didnt want to set myself up for an entire evening with a guy that I may not end up liking/hardly knew anything about so asked him if he wanted to meet up while I was in NY. This was the first South Indian guy I was going to meet - up until now I never really was open to meeting South Indians....but I really need to broaden my options! Anyway, we met at this really cool Japanese Tea place (that also happened to serve all vege food, I wish I remembered the name of the place!) He was tall and cute and I actually really enjoyed our conversation - I even found myself giggling :) We hung out for a little over an hour and then he had to run to a meeting. I remember sitting there thinking damn, should have had him come up to my city so we could have gone on a real date. As nice as he was, I got this feeling that I might not hear from him again. He said he just started the whole online dating thing - not that that is a reason I won't hear from him, but sometimes you just know...

Guy #2 I met later that evening. This was a guy I have been chatting with a little bit longer and we had been trying to find a date to get together. He was telling me he had a long week and needed a drink so we first met at a martini bar in NJ. He is 6 years older than me (he just turned 40!) and I was hesitant about meeting someone older...I don't know, 40 is too close to 50 and then that reminds me of my parents :) But I decided to keep an open mind knowing how hard it is to meet people. When I walked in I noticed that he looked younger than his age and was kinda cute - cool! We hung out at the bar for a little while and seemed to kinda click - the funny part is being around him I suddenly felt so young - it was the best feeling! Haha :) One of my closest friends name's came up (they had both done residency at the same hospital) and I asked him if he knew her. He doesn't say anything really. After awhile, we head out and start walking towards the restaurant. Suddenly he's like your friend...I know her. I was like oh, you do? He says yes, we actually dated. I stop in my tracks - right there on the sidewalk - and it hit me! He had used a nickname with her (short form of his name) and his full name with me....I just point at him and in shock say "YOU! THAT WAS YOU!" I can't believe this is the guy my friend had dated for over a year and the guy that had totally messed with her. He just looked down and then back up and said Do you still want to do dinner? I was like yeah we're doing dinner, i'm hungry! The walk to the restaurant was a bit awkward (as you can imagine!). Once we got there, we sat down and just started talking about other things and then everything was fine - I guess I reclassified quickly that this was now just hanging out and so I was totally just being myself and we were sharing stories and laughing. He was a cool guy, I can see why my friend had dated him for so long. While we were having dinner he looked at me and was like has anyone ever told you that you look like Jennifer Aniston? I was like what? He said yeah, your look, your mannerisms - you totally remind me of her. I started laughing and said when I was 10 pounds thinner and you could see my defined chin that guys had told me that before. And that my cousins in India tell me. Later we're talking and he's just looking at me and I was like what? He just smiled and says can I call you Jen? Even though most would agree that I don't look like her, it was nice for someone to give me such a nice compliment - I needed that. It kinda made my night. After dinner we headed back to our cars and I made a point that I would be okay walking to my car (so he wouldn't walk me) and the goodbye was so awkward that I later texted him saying sorry for the awkward goodbye and thanks for dinner. I immediately called my friend to tell her who I had just had dinner with....and he called while I was on with her and left a message saying it was fine and that I was a cool and it was fun hanging out and he'd talk to me later (or something like that). Anyway, I know way too much about him and he's one of my closest friend's ex's --- you just don't go there. But.....what luck, huh?!!