1+3+1 = 5. That is how many guys I met last week. Yes, you could say I am definitely on a mission here. Something has got to work out somewhere, right?! Ok, so here's how it went:
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I had met this one guy online years ago. I think we were both pretty new to the online thing and therefore pretty adamant about what we wanted and what we weren't willing to compromise on. I think I scarred him because when we figured out neither of us was going to budge, he went and updated his profile online to reflect things we'd talked about :) Outside of that, we did get along so we kept in touch and every year or so would drop each other a line to catch up. Two and a half years ago he was at a conference in the city I was living in and so we met up for dinner...all that time had passed and we'd never met! I don't think there were really any sparks and that was that. Fast forward to last week. I was going to be in a town near Chicago for work (he lives in Chicago) and on Tuesday we decided to meet up again, grab a drink and catch up. I was a good 90 minutes from where he lived and he came out to see me. Nice. When he picked me up, I literally was like wow - you are so cute (he had less facial hair so that I could actually see his face this time!) There wasn't much to do near my hotel so we went to a TGIF to get drinks...and ended up hanging out for 3 hours until they closed the place down. I can't remember the last time I laughed so much. Maybe because this was a non-date and there was no pressure things were just really nice. Maybe it was because we already kind of knew each other. He ended up staying twice as long as he had initially planned. When he dropped me off at my hotel, I felt like the hug lingered just a little bit :) I wish we could have hung out longer....and I texted him just that at the very same time that he was calling me. Cute :) We talked his entire drive back. And the last few days we've been texting and talking on and off. For once in my life, I am going to try and just let this evolve...because I have to be honest, I am hoping it will. I'd at least like to see if there's something here...
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I met 3 guys on Friday. I've done two before but this was a first! I was in NY and that's probably the only place in this country where something like this can get pulled off! I had told each guy in advance that I had to meet friends for drinks about an hour after I was meeting them. The first guy physcially was not what I was expecting and he looked a lot older than me. As soon as he saw me he told me I looked nice. Then while we were sitting he says to me you have these moles on your face. I point to the one under my lip and said are you referring to this? He asks me if I understood Urdu (which I don't) and he starts quoting a ghazal about how a mole enhances a woman's beauty. Haha :) Okay cute, but I didn't really know how to respond to that. Then he tells me as I'm leaving that he'd like to see me again the following week. Outside of not being phsyically attracted to him, he also has a job which has him on the east coast 10 days of every month, on the west coast 10 days of every month and the other 10 days traveling within the US or internationally. Not exactly the kind of relationship I want to be in. The second guy was so cute - he reminded me of a nerdy character that Rhithik Roshan has played in some of his movies. This guy really had a handsome face, glasses, and his suit pants were just a little short so that you could see his white socks as he was walking. He's been in the U.S. for about 10 years. Conversation was okay. He told me he'd like to meet up again and then texted me the day after we met...let's see. The third guy was tall and skinny with very little hair left (which I dont mind, I actually find some bald men very attractive), and the easiest to talk to of the three. I realize more and more that I am trying to be so open to guys from India that have been here for 10 years but the guys I instantly connect to are the ones that are like me and grew up here, we just have so much more in common. Anyway, while conversation was fine I don't think I'm going to hear from this guy again. As I left the last date, not feeling like any one of them was "wow", I texted #1 (Mr. Chicago) from above to ask if he was busy. He called me instantly and we spent the next hour on the phone :)
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I met another guy on Saturday for lunch. Lunch was actually quite nice. Afterwards we walked around for awhile and walked through this ivy league's college campus. The campus was beautiful and during our walk there were really long silences. It wasn't uncomfortable, but there wasn't that instant 'spark' of chatter that I've had with others before. He suggested we should try and meet up again in 2 weeks, and yes, this guy I would want to see again.
One of my friends has drilled it into my head that its all a numbers game - put yourself out there and meet tons of people, one of them will work out. So....here goes....wish me luck!
